Family Hub
Everything the family has coming up, in one place you both can change.
Add to the shopping list
Tonight's tea
After school reminder
Tell the hub
Type it, or tap the microphone on your phone keyboard and just say it. It goes in the right place for you.
Calendar
Coming up
The next few weeks. Add anything here and it shows on the calendar.
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Good stuff
Days out, holidays and things to look forward to. No pressure to fill every weekend.
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Birthdays
Coming up next. You get a reminder a week before to sort a card and present.
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All birthdays
Clubs and activities
Weekly things like swimming, football or Scouts. They show in the calendar's week view.
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Parties and invitations
Tap the reply or present chip to update it.
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Today's reminder
This week's focus
One thing each, so whoever is there does the same thing. Calm follow through, not more warnings.
How did today go?
Ten seconds at bedtime. It saves as you tap. After a few weeks it shows what is really changing, and gives you real examples if you ever talk to school or the GP.
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One to one time
Ten minutes of just you and one of them counts. Max gets his share too. Tap when it happens.
Wins
The good bits, so they don't get lost in the hard days.
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In the moment
What we agreed. Tap a situation. Never shaming, smacking, or holding back cuddles, food or care.
What kind of moment is it?
Laughing and running off
Don't chase, it becomes the game. Short calm words, stay close at tricky changes, and give him chasing and silly play at other times.
Crying, hiding, really upset
Check nobody is hurt. Come close gently. Tell him he isn't in trouble. Offer a cuddle, and accept a no. Talk about it once he's calm.
Hitting
Stop it straight away. Look after whoever was hurt first. Separate, help him calm, then say the boundary.
Words to use
"It's okay to feel angry. It's not okay to hit."
"I know you didn't mean to hurt Max. You're not in trouble for an accident. I'm here if you want a cuddle."
"Let's check that Max is okay."
"If you run away from me, you'll need to stay right beside me."
"Thank you for coming when I asked."
"You got your shoes on without me needing to remind you."
First time listening
- Go to him. Don't call from another room.
- Get his attention first.
- One clear instruction, said once.
- Wait about ten seconds.
- Help him start, or calmly follow through.
- Notice it out loud when he does it.
"I need help" or "Can I finish this first?" is him talking to you, not ignoring you.
Mornings
- Wake up and settle
- Make beds
- Breakfast, with music on
- Teeth and faces
- Uniform
- Shoes, jumpers, bags
- Leave
Keep what works. Lay out clothes, shoes and bags the night before, add a 10 to 15 minute buffer, and stay next to Lucas for shoes rather than asking from the kitchen.
Getting more support
Your plan says frequent hitting is worth taking to someone who can see Lucas in person. His Reception teacher, the school SENCO, your health visitor or the GP are all good places to start, and the log above gives them real examples. Asking early just gets you more ideas. Max shouldn't have to manage his brother.
Christmas presents
Tick a present when you've got it.
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Shopping list
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Tick things as they go in the basket. Copy list gives you everything still to get, ready to paste into the Aldi, Tesco or Asda app.
Meals this week
Whoever is picking this week chooses the teas. Pick from your options below with Plan for, or type one in. Busy nights are flagged from the clubs.
What the family likes
Meal options
The meals you all like. Everyone taps their name to vote, then use Plan for to put it on a day.
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Takeaway night
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Household jobs
Nobody is assigned. Pick one up if you fancy it.
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Sam's annual leave
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Leave settings
Weekends and bank holidays are not counted, because Sam gets bank holidays on top of his allowance.
Sam's standby
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End time is optional. Leave it blank and tap End standby when it finishes.
Joint account
Add what goes into the joint account and the bills that come out of it.
Paid in
Transfers into the joint account. Only what goes in, never anyone's wages. Change the box if a month was different.
Show each payment
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Joint bills
What leaves the joint account each month. Change the box if a bill was different this month.
Show each payment
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What we got paid
Each of your take home pay for the month picked above, and anything you started the month owing.
Food shopping
Log each shop's total, from either of you. It shows where the money goes so you can spot savings.
Each shop
Paid out by each of us
Family costs one of you paid from your own money, like a phone bill, futsal or kit. Shows for the month picked above.
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TikTok money
What TikTok paid in, with tax put to one side so you know what's really yours to spend. Set the percentage to what your accountant advises.
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Savings pots
Christmas, holidays, a rainy day. Tap Add money when you put some in.
Contracts ending
Not monthly bills, just things with an end date. You get a reminder about three weeks before, and that's when I hunt for a better price. Nothing is switched unless you both say yes.
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Add a contract
Shared between Elle and Sam. Work and business details never appear here.